Not long ago, I was visiting an antique store and happened upon the section of the store tucked in the back corner of the second floor. Reading the sign, I laughed aloud as one of my friends came instantly to mind. The humor and creativity of the owner impressed me enough to snap a picture. Hawaiian shirts, old, torn jeans, and t-shirts from middle school sports teams populate this friend’s wardrobe. But here’s the kicker…he doesn’t care, or at least he didn’t when I asked why he doesn’t wear nicer clothing and why he buys old jeans at Goodwill. “Because it feels good.” The size and the style don’t dictate the choice, but rather the feeling of the clothing.
In contrast, yesterday I was shopping at the outlets in Lancaster. I wondered through J. Crew and eventually made my way back to the clearance section.
I am not one to look at sizes for anything more than a reference point of what typically fits. Clothing is more about how it fits and how it looks then what size on the tag says. Plus, I honestly wear different sizes at almost every store.
Back to my shopping observations…As I was sorting through pastel cardigans and assorted tank tops, I overheard a woman talking to someone else. I know, I really should mind my own business, but what joy is there in shopping if you can’t causally observe those around you?
Chatting as women normally do when they shop, a young girl, who I assume is the daughter, held up a shirt for the person I believe is her mother to see. Her mother, turning to see the shirt, took one look at it and replied curtly, “put that back, that’s an extra-large, that’s not your size.” Her daughter quickly replied that she was just looking at the color. I didn’t hear anything after that.
Maybe I’m oversensitive to clothing, shopping and sizes. But maybe there is an underlying attitude that your size is sealed and no matter about the style of the garment, how it feels or how it fits, you must wear that size. From where are we taking our cues for what to wear? Are we looking to our society and culture that creates a standard size for beauty or are we looking to truth that encourages to reflect the beauty of our Maker, each in a unique and different way?
Do we buy clothing of the feel of the fabric or do we buy clothing in a set size, regardless of feeling and fit, just because it’s your size? I know I’m guilty of the later. Never has that article become a favorite of mine. Rather is stays wedged in the corner of drawers or almost falling off the hanger in the back of the closet.
You can tell the clothing that is best because it sits in the top of the drawer or often never makes it to the closet before it is picked up and worn again. It’s the pieces that I choose for the feel and fit, regardless of size, that I like and live in, not just endure and wear.